The Joy of Caring

Reflections of a Daughter of the Silent Generation and Mother of Generation Y

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Summer in Wisconsin ain’t too shabby either!

July 27, 2017

Mom on walk
Thanks to our caregiver Hannah for catching Lala and Cinnamon in action

Having fun #ENDALZ, Alzheimer's Disease, Caregiving, Gratitude, Keep it simple, One day at a time, Pets terry@thejoyofcaring.com 2 Comments

Brotherly Love on Mom’s Birthday

July 19, 2017

Of all the things I could give Mom for her birthday, the very best would be the promise to always try to work things out with my bros. Mom cherished each one of us, in different ways, and having us all in her life, in the ways that we could be, not only made my role as primary caregiver doable, it also helped to make her life, at 85 and with dementia, complete.

—excerpt from Living Is for Living: A Caregiver’s Story

Accepting help Alzheimer's Disease, Caregiving, Dementia, Eldercare, Gratitude, Siblings, Teamwork terry@thejoyofcaring.com 2 Comments

Triple Salchow – enough is enough

July 16, 2017

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As my spouse put it when I fretted: “getting your Mom two weeks in Maine is like completing a triple salchow – that’s something to feel good about.”

—excerpt from Living Is for Living: A Caregiver’s Story

Maintaining balance #ENDALZ, Alzheimer's Disease, Caregiving, Gratitude, Marriage, Unearned Guilt terry@thejoyofcaring.com 6 Comments

Step Seven Humility

July 13, 2017

AA’s Step Seven: “Humbly asked our Higher Power to remove our shortcomings.” Faith in a Higher Power…It’s what helped me, Mom still in Maine for a bit longer, in another’s care. #thankGodforHannah! (Al-Anon’s Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions)

—excerpt from Living Is for Living: A Caregiver’s Story

Practicing faith Alzheimer's Disease, Caregiving, Friendship, Health first, Marriage, Parenting, Step 7, The Twelve Steps of AA terry@thejoyofcaring.com 2 Comments

The Happiest Days, i.e. “Going to Camp”

July 6, 2017

Mom looking at lake in bathrobe

As we weighed the challenges of getting Mom to camp vs. her love of summers there, I remembered her advice twenty-five years earlier when I asked her about taking our newborn first to live in Prague so that Doug could take a job there: “Go for it.”

—excerpt from Living Is for Living: A Caregiver’s Story

Maintaining balance #ENDALZ, Alzheimer's Disease, Caregiving, Gratitude, One day at a time terry@thejoyofcaring.com 4 Comments

The Challenges of Pain and Delirium as they relate to Dementia – aka Guess who has a UTI?

June 29, 2017

While it complicated her care, Mom’s inability to remember the pain or other details had its advantages: she loved taking guilt-free naps with Cinnamon and regularly expressed gratitude for her good health when I tucked her in at night.

—excerpt from Living Is for Living: A Caregiver’s Story

Gathering Info, Learning as we go #ENDALZ, Alzheimer's Disease, Caregiving, Dehydration, Delerium, Health first, Infection, Pain, UTI terry@thejoyofcaring.com 6 Comments

Summer Solstice 2017, the longest day and grief

June 24, 2017

After a busy spring, I was exhausted. It helped that, when our youngest played Herb Alpert and the Tijuana Brass on his phone, Mom danced in her chair, from head to toe.

—excerpt from Living Is for Living: A Caregiver’s Story

Taking care of self #ENDALZ, Alzheimer's Disease, Caregiver burden, Caregiving, Gratitude, Grief, Losing a loved one terry@thejoyofcaring.com 4 Comments

Looking for Dad

June 18, 2017

It’d been fifteen years since Dad died, and I looked for him every day, grateful for all the ways he was still right here, with me.

—excerpt from Living Is for Living: A Caregiver’s Story

Making peace #ENDALZ, Alzheimer's Disease, Caregiving, Gratitude, Life after death, Losing a loved one terry@thejoyofcaring.com 2 Comments

My Sisters (in-law)

June 13, 2017

My sisters (in-law) may not have been part of my start, still, I was grateful they were part of my present.  Although we were from different gardens, I loved our awesome bouquet!

—excerpt from Living Is for Living: A Caregiver’s Story

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Head’s Up re: Infection and Alzheimer’s Disease

June 5, 2017

Even in the absence of pain or other symptoms, any change is reason to seek help. We were extremely fortunate that after all Mom had been through, her interactivity had returned. As she slogged through another round of pre-CT scan barium solution, I handed her a magazine; she took a quick look and threw it down on the table: “Housekeeping!” she proclaimed, “who wants to read a magazine about that!”

—excerpt from Living Is for Living: A Caregiver’s Story

Gathering Info #ENDALZ, Alzheimer's Disease, Dementia, Diverticulitis, Eldercare, Health concerns, Hospitalization, Infection, Lyme Disease terry@thejoyofcaring.com 2 Comments

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I am Acadia Manset's granddaughter. Raised in Maine, graduated from Dartmouth College and Harvard Law, I have spent the last 24 years parenting. With our adult kids in the process of leaving the nest, my mom has moved in, leading to precious time and daily opportunities I never anticipated. I hope that this site will inspire insight and growth, humor and fun, questions and answers, for you and for me.

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